Stop Lying to yourself!


Are you lying to yourself? Are you living a lie? Do you practice what you preach? I guess we all have our moments but I see some people who talk, talk, talk, about how they meditate, how they practice gratitude and forgiveness or whatever the case may be! But I see their lives, I know who they are to me or who they seem to be to the world and it is not in sync with what they preach.

I consider it a blessing to have these people in my life, or in view of my life. Why? Because it reminds me what I do not want to do. How I do not want to live my life. It keeps me aware and careful! More careful of how I live and what I say or write about. I need to walk my talk.

Remember, even the people who rub you the wrong way or push all your buttons are here for a reason. Even if that reason is to remind us how not to live our life!

The worst lies are the ones we tell our self! Just because you say the right words and claim enlightenment doesn’t mean it is so.

Start living your truth!  If you do not like what your truth is, then maybe it is time to write your new story and stick to it! Be honest about the procrastination, the well intended but unfulfilled goals. The lies you tell yourself about who you are or what you want. You need to start being honest with yourself.

The moment you get honest with yourself is the moment you start a new chapter in your life!



Change Your Story……

We all have our story that we tell ourselves. It may be a great story, or it may not be. It could be empowering or it could tear us down little by little. We all have one.  Our story is how we see ourselves. Our story is what we tell ourselves about what we can or cannot do. Our story is engrained deeply in our mind. It is what causes blocks in our lives, the roadblocks that keep us from achieving our goals. It is what causes our sabotaging nature to take hold. It is what causes our fears to creep up and stop us from taking that first step. Our stories, when they are not empowering us, are fear based stories we tell ourselves to keep us from growing and experiencing life.

You might have it all together, you may be reaching your goals with no problems and if so, Congratulations! I applaud your efforts, your strength, the courageous way you live your life! All I can say is that I hope you “pay it forward” not everyone has your abilities. You are in a unique position to be able to share your strengths with others. I hope you do.  There is nothing more empowering than serving others. And if you have it all together, then you probably already know that!

Good news! You can change your story! With that in mind , if you are not there, if you do not necessarily have it all together, like a lot of us, if you need to try to figure out how to change your story…..consider this,when we think of others we can accomplish great feats! Think about it….if you have children, wouldn’t you do anything for them? If someone were hurting them…you would be there for them, you probably would not be held back by any fears of failure or rejection. Your family, your friends, the loves in your life…these are the people you will do anything for. There is no limit to your abilities. You will get the job done! Take that knowledge and know that you can do the same in any situation. Empower yourself with that knowledge. By the way, your abilities of courage and strength may come from other places, not just your family, that was just one example. It could come from your job or your school, it is anywhere that you are that you have the confidence to accomplish the task at hand, whatever that is.

When you do feel those fear based feelings coming on ( anxiousness, sweaty palms, upset stomach, desire to RUN, etc…) you need to use those same feelings to empower yourself and to give yourself a new story.  When you feel the fear and say I cant…you need to take a few deep breaths then dig down and flip it around and say “I can!”   Turn what you perceive as negative energy into positive energy! Remember the times in your life when you had courage and strength! Focus on those times and remember the adrenaline rush, it feels the same…it is a matter of how you perceive the feeling that makes it what it is! Be the fierce Lioness that you know that you can be! You can apply that same energy and strength in any situation, it is all about what you think you can do. In other words, your story!

So if you are always telling yourself that you are unworthy or irrelevant or fat or ugly or whatever your story is…STOP!  Just stop!  That is the story of your life that is holding you back! Tell yourself a new story! Make it as beautiful and as strong and empowered as you know it should be! Tell the story about the person who will fight for her family,her faith, her job or? Whatever it is…. it is YOU. Not 50% of the time…but 100% of the time it is you. We all have our moments when we feel less than powerful but we just need to remember it is our story and we can tell it however we want to!

If you think it sounds too simple…..well it is and it isn’t. These are simple words, very easy to say, easy to write down, and I grant you that it will not take great physical strengths to tell your story….but it is hard work and you need to be willing to take the challenge because your EGO will try to defend you from the change. When you feel the fear, your ego will jump in. It has decided, from many years of conditioning, that it is safe for you to be fearful and stay fearful!   It will do what it can to keep you where you are-  STUCK!

SO be aware….it may seem simple but it will take time and it will take faith and courage. But you can do it! Because you can do anything! Why? Because you are made in the image of God, YOU have HIS spark!  And with God all things are possible! Period!

So go out and get yourself a new story! It’s FREE and available NOW!

*** To start telling your *new* story I would suggest that you write it down! Start keeping a journal, make a vision board, use affirmations.  I do suggest that if you use affirmations that you also journal your thoughts. You need to get the new story in your mind, body and soul. Repeat it in detail, daily!  Immerse yourself in your new story! Do not live with the old story in you anymore! And when it creeps up, and it will, just dig down and tell your new story.  Repeat it over and over….say it out loud if you can! Your words are powerful and will shake up your old EGO. Keep doing it.