It Began With Forgiveness……

Her life began in that diner, on that day many years ago, when she was still only a girl. It began when she learned to forgive the unforgivable.

Many years ago a girl sat in a diner alone, after having been terribly abused her whole young life. Abuse was all she had known, then one day she was tossed out, as if she did not matter to anyone. This is how she came to be at the diner that day, as she sat there not knowing what her next move would be she realized, without knowing why, that it was important for her to forgive all the people in her life who had hurt her, abused her, betrayed her.  She learned a lesson that day, one that seemingly came to her out of nowhere; from a voice deep within her,  a lesson that takes most of us a lifetime to learn. But I guess she had lived a lifetime at this point, even though she was only 17.

She did not understand then, but would many years later, why it was so important to forgive the unforgivable things that happened in her life and the people who committed them. One day she would understand that the love God gave to her, He gave freely, so she too needed to return that love to everyone.  She came to know that she could not pick who was to receive it; it was to be given freely to all she knew and that included the people who betrayed her! Not just the random betrayals, but the most serious ones, she needed to forgive the people in her life who hurt her the deepest, those people who should have loved her ,cared for her, the ones she feared every day!  They were the ones she needed to forgive first.

Could you do that?

This is where her story really began. That day, in that diner, she forgave and began living.

I Am Guilty!


Every once in a while I learn a lesson in the oddest places. Today I had to look in the mirror, and I do not like what I saw.

I was watching Oprah’s show “Next Chapter”  the guest being Kelsey Grammer. I will  say right up front I have been guilty of judging him on the fact that he walked away from his family, and the way he did it. I thought it was…well, I just did not think it was a very nice thing to do and I decided he was not as nice a guy as I once thought he was. Of course I formed my former opinion of him off of a character he played on TV. I loved Dr. Frasier Crane! When I heard the things that were happening between him and his wife I decided he was a pretty selfish person. Not just selfish but mean.

I have not really given it much thought, since originally forming that opinion, other than to be reminded how much I disliked this person when I would hear his name or see him on TV.

Lets face it, I always say we all have choices to make and our circumstances should not keep us from being the best person we can be.  Having said that, and I am not making excuses for him, I am making an observation, that unless I have walked a mile in his shoes I should keep my opinions to myself. Remember, lesson being learned. I strive to be an encourager not a judge.  And the point has been made !

Today I was reminded yet again why we should never judge others. Why? What did I hear that reinforced this lesson?

Here is the short answer…..

I don’t know how many people are aware of his history, I have never heard of anyone with such a tragic life.  Oprah said the same and I’m pretty sure she has seen/heard of many tragedies!  Kelsey has been through a lot beginning with his Grandfather, who he looked to as a father, dying when he was 12. Then 1 year later his father was lured out of his house by a fire set on his lawn and  shot to death by a deranged man! Then in 1975 his 18-year-old sister, Karen, was abducted by strangers and repeatedly raped and then stabbed 42 times and left for dead……Kelcey had to go to Colorado to ID the body; he was only 20 years old! Then 5 years later his twin half brothers were both killed in a freak scuba diving accident!

I can’t even imagine. I have been on my spiritual journey for years and don’t make all the right choices. How can I even begin to know what a person, who has had to endure such tragedies their entire life, thinks when he makes his life decisions? If I needed a reminder that we do not know what motivates a person to make the decisions they make- well I got a great one here!  We do not know what a person has lived through that can cause such pain and of course this pain affects the choices they make!

After this I will only do what I should have done all along, pray for him as well as anyone else in this life to make the best decisions they can for themselves and those around them! As I said…I strive to be an encourager! I may have gotten a little off track but I thank God for always knowing how to set me straight again!