Out of The Pain Comes Growth!

pain1I don’t know about you but this describes my summer! And a few other times in my life. And so, have I grown? Have a I changed?

It’s funny because  the summers of 2013 and 2014 have changed my life forever. Both circumstances were painful, one on a personal level, and then the following summer, on a professional level.  Both times I was faced with a person and situation that were not as it seemed.  I was devastated but I have come through, with much change, to the other side; and yes I am a changed person! One who has experienced much growth; self-improvement growth as well as spiritual growth.

When going through the thick of a problem we do not see what is on the other side and that is the way it is. Our faith has to kick in; our faith that there is something better waiting for us.

In my two situations I made completely different choices on how to handle them in the moment. With the personal one I stayed and fought, with the professional one I left. In both situations I prayed and I let guidance from God show me the way.  It is interesting because in both cases I felt extreme betrayal and abuse in some form ( abuse may not be the correct word here…..maybe it is more along the lines of….well speaking on the professional situation it was ridiculous and Irrational! The personal side was just pure betrayal.)

Here is the main difference in these two situations; in one ultimately I felt I belonged there, in the other I didn’t.

In the professional situation I felt disappointed and let down by a few people; as well as abandoned to have to deal with an irrational situation (person) with no help from those who should have been available to do so!  I do not belong in an environment like that!   In the personal situation I was betrayed plain and simple. Someone who I thought for many years was a certain person, of certain character, turned out to be someone different; at least for that summer!  But in the end I do belong there because I continue to grow in that relationship and God showed me that.  So each situation gets handled differently.

Sometimes it is good to stay and fight!  But regardless of your choice to stay or leave, your hardship, your hard work, will allow you to grow and become the person you will be in the end. In each situation you need to quiet yourself and look for inner guidance. Don’t panic and run; seek counsel from another as well as from God. But always try to remember there is growth to be had and it will be yours, In the end you will be the victor! Keep pushing forward and do not listen to the naysayers, because there will always be some, don’t let the words or actions of others stop you from your victory. Always do what is right and you will be golden!

And above all else don’t stay where you don’t belong! You will not flourish in an environment that is not meant for you.  Maybe that is God’s way of letting you know you are in the wrong place? Maybe when things go awry and don’t make any sense maybe you are in the wrong place and need to leave. Yes it may be painful but imagine the possibilities!

I think it would be a bit much for you to believe if I said I wouldn’t change a thing; but I am grateful for all I have been through! I know the growth I have experienced (especially the last two years) has been because of my pain.

So when we’re tempted to look back and think how sad or sorry we are for things, or when we’re tempted to look forward to how we may do things differently, I say let us look to today! Look to today and who we are now! Let us celebrate the victories; even if the victory at this moment is that we are still standing! And we are not somewhere that we do not belong!

More power to you!

A Reason for Everything!

validatedWe know everything happens for a reason. Yet it is nice to get validation once in a while.  That is what happened to me the other day…validation!

I’ve been working on editing my current writing project, my editor told me to add a few more personal experiences to it.  Lately though I’ve hit a bit of a brick wall with this assignment! And I could not figure out why. I just knew that I had a terrible block! I let days pass without really digging in and doing the necessary work.  1 week passed and then another. Until the other day when I received a call from someone completely out of the blue.  This particular person has always represented frustration in my life. Never does it go well with this person and this person always has an agenda as well as a very bitter and stinging tongue.  I could not fathom why I was hearing from this person now; it had been a long time and there was no reason for it.

Regardless of the why, I dealt with the situation ( and yes it was as unreasonable a situation as ever) and then after it was over it occurred to me this was the perfect example to add to my project.  This person who has caused unbelievable turmoil in my life and the lives of my family had no grip on my life any longer!  Due to my growth (spiritual growth…which is the subject of my editing project) this person no longer had any control! I would not allow it!

So not only did I have validation for my spiritual progress but I had what I needed for my project!  See this was the reason I had a mental block! I was waiting for this to unfold! There is always a reason for everything. And everyone serves a purpose!