Our Experiences Can Be A Shinning Light To Others!

We all have a story, the story of our life. It may be a fairy tale; but it may also be somewhat of a sad story or even a horror story. We do not go into life saying we want to be abused or neglected, or involved in drugs or other addictions. Addictions that will make life a lot harder than it otherwise would be.  But whether we want it or not “it” seems to have a way of finding some of us anyway!

As it turns out, in my case, and the case of my children, we have taken our experiences and used them to help others. We share our stories with others, in hopes that they will be inspired! Inspired to be optimistic, to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. That there may really be a reason for the madness!! And that there is life after abuse and other life challenges!

It has taken me years to understand that the abuse that I and my children went through…was not in vain. No matter how hard it may have been, I take solace in the knowledge that I can be a beacon of hope for others. Not despite of, but because of my experience.

I have come to a place in my life where I am grateful for all I have been through. No, I do not wish it upon others. But I do realize, regardless of how I feel, others will go through similar. And these people need to know there is more to this life than the problems, and possibly nightmares, that they are living through now. And there is.

So I go on day after day, some days are harder than others, the ghosts of my past definitely visit me from time to time! But my feelings today, on the ghosts of the past, is so much different than it was a few years ago! Why? Because I have learned to be grateful and I have learned that all life has purpose. I know my purpose is wrapped up in those experiences! So I am grateful for them! I am grateful for my life, exactly as it has unfolded!

To not be would be to stop living, to succumb to the sadness that life could be……. and I am not willing to do that!  And you shouldn’t be either! We are worthy of greatness!  So let’s push forward, shall we?

Wasted Time


I sent my manuscript to my publisher today. As I was getting ready to send it I read through some notes I had and came to an astonishingly sad realization. I have spent an insane amount of money and time running from my purpose.

I have known for many years what it is that I’m meant to do- Encourage others (and myself) to live the best life they (I) can! And while I have and do this all the time and have since as far back as I can remember, I was not embracing my purpose. Year after year I would think of new ways to earn a living, and I was successful in most things that I would try, but it would not last. Of course when my children were young I worked for many years at the same job because I needed to provide for my children. But once they were grown I continued to chase the perfect career; not surprising, I never found it.

As I began writing, and definitely as I sat there with the finished product, I realized all those years spent chasing that career was wasted. Not that chasing a career is a bad thing, but for me it was because I knew what it was that I was to do, I knew I was supposed to write.  But I ran from it, I didn’t do what I knew I was being asked to do.

Why? Fear. Yes, it is that simple. I have been afraid of living my purpose since I have known what that purpose was.  I do not think this is uncommon, unfortunately I think it is way too common. Amazingly enough it is my own book that has helped me to embrace and grow into the person I need to be to reach my goals and live my purpose. And I know there is more to do and I will not run from it! Completely the opposite, today I am ready to start writing the next book!

Stop running from your purpose, from who you are. Embrace your purpose and take action. With the knowing of your purpose and the action to reach it you will be successful!

God Bless you all!

Heal Your Spirit………


If our purpose is to help others then it is important to make sure we do not have a wounded spirit! Why? If someone has a wounded spirit they can’t be effective in helping others. It is important to do the work and let go of our past hurts. Get rid of our own baggage!

Heal your spirit and you will soar in your purpose. ~Christine Martin