My Friends Are Priceless!

friendsgreatI am blessed to have friends that are priceless…and they are not only priceless to me, my friends are the type of people who are priceless to so many people! My friends are in great demand…because I surround myself with only the best! I accept that my friends have time issues….that is OK! That is the price I am willing to pay for the type of friends I have.  The qualities I find in those who surround me are integrity, compassion, grace, love, patience, loyalty, forgiveness, and kindness.  Who wouldn’t consider these people priceless?!

I love when I see someone I have not seen in a while and we can laugh so hard at our great memories! And I love (equally) when I see that one friend that I see all the time! She is like a sister to me and we are very comfortable together.  I knew someday God would surround me with the great people I deserve in my life! HE never disappoints, sometimes we feel HE can be slow ( to our liking anyway) but all in His time is a true statement…all in His time!

And I must remember that the hardships I have overcome, the betrayals I have experienced over the years have not been for nothing! How else would I recognize the true treasures that I have in my friends today unless I saw what a non-friend looked like?  See…it all works out for the best! It always does! Just be patient and you will see.

Be Healed…… Then Pay It Forward!

healingI began my education as a way to heal myself. I am not sure if this is a common practice, but it is what I did.  I’d been walking a path of self discovery and spiritual growth for about 4 years when I decided to further my education as a way of healing myself.

When I enrolled in school I’d been doing anything I could to help with my spiritual growth such as classes, seminars, reading books, listening to audio books, anything I could think of that would help me grow. I’d been doing this about 4 years and while I had learned and grown a great deal, I still had not broken through the walls which were keeping me from reaching my goals.  After a while I felt, with guidance from a spiritual mentor, that I needed to take my education further. My mentor felt I needed to be healed ( there is back story here that I am not going into. Trust me I needed healing), and then I needed to go on to heal others. I took what she said to heart and decided it was time to get a little more aggressive about making it happen, which is why I enrolled in school.

And that is exactly what happened! I began my healing process and in time I started, in a very organic way, to heal others. As I get closer to the end of my education I find that I am attracting people who need me.  This is awesome!  I already have 4 clients* and am not out of school!

** Because of that little fact I do not charge them…yet !   😉

There is nothing more satisfying in life than to help others, that “help” can come in many shapes and sizes, for me it comes in the form of listening,loyalty,love,forgiveness, encouragement and ultimately healing!  These are the things I learned that changed my life and they are what I give back to others and ultimately will have an impact on their lives.

So Be Healed, then go out and heal someone else! “I am not a healer” You say? All I can tell you is to jump in with both feet! Don’t hold back, keep an open mind! Be there for another and ask God to lead you….go in with intent and be ready to help! It will happen.

Oh and one bit of advice;when you start “being there” for someone do not just dump them for no reason, communication is of utmost importance in these matters. If you are not committed to the long haul then don’t get started, you could cause more harm than good.

Peace and Love~ Christine

 

So You Think You Are ALL THAT At Communication?

cluelessI see so many people handing out advice about communication. It is the most important thing in relationships. I agree! It is vital in relationships of all types. The problem is, as many people as I see handing out the advice, I do not see that many people who are truly willing to put in the work.

Communication has been a thing for me most my life. It was such a big thing for me that I taught my children at a young age how to be considerate of others and how to listen.I think that is one of the reasons people fail at communication. Communication is not only about talking to each other. Your communication style is of vital importance as is your commitment, passion, and sincerity! Consideration towards others, when it is real, makes a world of difference in your communication style.

If you, in the beginning of a relationship, return calls/texts promptly, you call occasionally, you listen intently, you share of yourself, and then one day, you don’t, you can expect some problems will be headed your way. Period. You need to get real, from the very start, about who you are and what style of communication you are comfortable with for the long haul. Because it matters! People, friends, family, spouses, boyfriends, they will notice.  This is not to say that if you have a moment where you fall off the radar the relationship will not survive. No! I am sure it will and even if it doesn’t, it should have. So take heart that you found out early there were bigger issues than communication. There is nothing wrong with having a moment, we all do! But repeatedly failing to be who you represented yourself as in the beginning of a relationship, whether it is in your communication or your fidelity, loyalty, whatever! Is no good!

And being clueless to the fact that you are that way is no excuse! I will bet that you’ve been told, nicely, ( at least at first) that this was happening, and I’d be willing to bet you chose to decide the person was being sensitive or nagging! OR they were changing.  Well folks we all need to look in the mirror when there is a breakdown in communication, a breakdown in a relationship, and make sure we are really being honest about what is happening. And be willing to either address our issues or accept that the other party does not agree and be willing to let it go and move on. I mean if you search your heart and you come up with….it is not about you but about them…..well accept it and move on!  **And your other relationships are a good indicator too! If you have issues with others then maybe it is you……….?

I think what people forget is that good communication is not just about words. It is also about the way you deliver your words! And in my opinion communication is not really that good if it is lacking consideration,sincerity and integrity.  Without those components then all we have are shallow, meaningless, words.

And your true intent may get lost in translation!

Peace and Love~ Christine