Jerry Lewis

As a kid, he was my favorite male actor- Lucille Ball was my favorite female. She still is. 

I loved and was quite impressed with Mr.Jerry Lewis. I loved the Labor Day Telethon…. when I was growing up it was a big deal!! I worked it a few times and felt honored. 

Jerry Lewis was an inspiration. 

He will he missed.  Has been. Always. Thank God we have his films. I wish we could all leave the type of legacy he did. 

RIP Jerry Lewis. 

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My Friends Are Priceless!

friendsgreatI am blessed to have friends that are priceless…and they are not only priceless to me, my friends are the type of people who are priceless to so many people! My friends are in great demand…because I surround myself with only the best! I accept that my friends have time issues….that is OK! That is the price I am willing to pay for the type of friends I have.  The qualities I find in those who surround me are integrity, compassion, grace, love, patience, loyalty, forgiveness, and kindness.  Who wouldn’t consider these people priceless?!

I love when I see someone I have not seen in a while and we can laugh so hard at our great memories! And I love (equally) when I see that one friend that I see all the time! She is like a sister to me and we are very comfortable together.  I knew someday God would surround me with the great people I deserve in my life! HE never disappoints, sometimes we feel HE can be slow ( to our liking anyway) but all in His time is a true statement…all in His time!

And I must remember that the hardships I have overcome, the betrayals I have experienced over the years have not been for nothing! How else would I recognize the true treasures that I have in my friends today unless I saw what a non-friend looked like?  See…it all works out for the best! It always does! Just be patient and you will see.

I love ME Enough!

forgiven

Forgiveness is such a great word…and action. If only we can get there. I know it is subjective; everyone has a story, one that is so different from mine, yet so similar. No one person is better, or more deserving, of forgiveness than the next. Yet….for some of us, we feel as though we will never get there!  Will we? Will we ever really truly forgive?

Yes…emphatically yes!  I truly believe in the possibility of forgiveness and the power of forgiveness!  I know it can take time, and I know at first we are lost as to how we will ever get there!  But get there we will! It takes time, it takes perseverance, and it takes love! And it takes a desire to do so.

I think the biggest mistake we make is in believing it can, or should, happen quicker than is possible! We put way too much pressure on ourselves to forgive because that is what Jesus would do, or that is what God would want, or…whatever. And I think that we forget to forgive the right person. What do I mean by that? I think in some cases (many) we are so hurt by whatever it is that created this need for forgiveness; that we forget to forgive ourselves. Yes even in cases where we were wronged we probably still need to forgive ourselves (keep reading!!)….even if the forgiveness may seem misplaced because we really have nothing to need forgiveness for! Are you following me? Sometimes we are wronged (say by assault) yet, even though the other person is obviously in the wrong; I mean a victim is and never should be blamed for violent acts against them, but try and tell that to their subconscious! Victims may feel pain that is caused from their feelings of guilt and shame associate with the assault. Now maybe it is a stretch to call this self-forgiveness, and it is definitely terrible to think of a victim needing to forgive themselves, but let us just start there. Because what really needs to happen is the victim needs to let go of the situation which is causing them to feel guilt, shame, and pain. PTSD and other emotional problems can result from violent and abusive traumas. Forgiveness and love are powerful tools on the road to recovery.

Can we just start with forgiving our-self? Forgiveness for the feelings we have associated with the trauma that was inflicted upon us by another? Yes….let it go.  The guilt, the shame, the feelings of victim…..all these things that are causing us to stay in a victim mentality…..forgive our-self for them and learn to love our-self! A love so unconditional that we will rise like a phoenix out of the ashes that were once our suffering!

So lets start with us. Lets start the entire process with forgiving us our faults; whatever they may be! And accepting that we are not to blame for what happened to us. And even in cases where we have to accept a certain amount of responsibility, and there are some situations like that, we still need to love ourselves enough to say ” I am forgiven” and let it go.

And so how do we know if we have forgiven? If we have really let it go? That is easy! If it keeps coming up (in a negative way), if it keeps holding us back, if we continue to ruminate over it at times; then we have not let it go and we still have work to do! And that is OK! As long as we are conscious of the fact and willing to keep working at it!

Forgiveness will set US free! But it takes time and a powerful love for one’s self!