To Detach with Love

detachwithloveI used to have a problem with the term “to detach” because I felt like it was saying I had to lose something or give up on someone. When I first heard the expression “to detach” I was in a coaching session, my coach suggested that I should learn to detach from my feelings about my family. I could not grasp the thought of that because I associated the word detach with meaning to stop loving. Maybe if she had said “to detach with love” I would have had an easier time understanding and learning to embrace this thought.

Now maybe nobody else in the world would have this problem, maybe it was just me, but on the off-chance that someone else hears the word detach and thinks it is a rather heartless term, I wanted to share this.  Share my thoughts today on the term “to detach”.

So in the past I felt the term “to detach” was heartless and cold, I felt like the only people who could do this were people who are able to turn off their love for others.  That is because I didn’t get “it.”  What is “it?”  To know the truth- to detach is to love someone so much you can detach from the outcome, detach from the need to be loved back, and to detach from the worry and expectation that comes with love.   I learned, after much growth, that to detach with love simply means to love so unconditionally that you are not bothered by outcomes or expectations.

I hope that makes sense. I do want to keep this short enough that you will read it; yet get all the info in there!  Any questions or opinions please feel free to chime in below! I do not care if you disagree with my view!! It is all good! We can share what we think with each other. I love to hear other people’s thoughts! And am open-minded enough that I grow from hearing what others think; even if I still disagree!

I will leave you with this, my favorite scripture, which helped me get to a place of letting go of expectation and worry.

Phil 4:6 ” Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”

It’s got it all! No worries, and gratitude! I love this verse!

 

 

 

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No Amount of Pain…..

pain1There is no amount of pain that will change the past. We can get stuck in our pain for so long that it doesn’t even make sense any longer.  Nothing does. All we know is we are in pain and nothing seems to work.

I never say that you should not feel your pain! I say feel your pain for as long as you need to;but learn when it is time to let it go. Once that pain doesn’t serve you, yes I said “serve you” because sometimes pain can help us get past things, own it,  but once it is making life simply too hard to navigate, then it is time to let it go. Only we have the power to know when it is time and to do something about it.  There may be times when the pain is too great and we can’t seem to pull ourselves out no mater what we do- that is when  we must ask for help. No shame in that!! It is just as powerful to know when to ask  and do it!!

So feel your pain, but only for a season. Let it go when it is time. Ask for help if you need to.  It is all part of life and growth!

You’ve GOT this! ❤