To Vacuum Or Not To Vacuum!?

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I am Grateful
I am grateful to do things like laundry, dishes, vacuuming, picking up after others, and all the other chores that I used to think were boring and could create quite the fuss in our home!
Today I am grateful for these things. I am grateful for every “chore” that comes my way.
To do laundry means I have a washer and dryer (or the money to use a pay machine)
To wash dishes means I have water and obviously food to dirty the dishes.
To vacuum means I have a home with carpets to vacuum, which means I am warm at night in my home.
Picking up after others means I have family, in good and bad times, I have the opportunity to love and be loved.
All of these chores are sweeter because of what they mean, every time I get the opportunity to clean my home, or pick up after a loved one, I know how blessed I am.

So here is a little disclaimer  ” pick up after a loved one” <————-OK…within reason!! LOL

Hello?? Can You Hear Me??

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So you say you’re a good listener? You are a person who describes herself as having the characteristic or gift of listening? Hearing others? If you claim to be a good listener, someone who others can turn to in times of need or you want to be there in a listening capacity as a professional, then I think it is important that you really listen!

Again I turn to my trusted phrase of “Fake it till you make it”  as I have said in past posts, this may be a great way to get through certain things in your life and there are even a lot of jobs where you can do this and it works!  I think the key is to not do any harm to another person, don’t you agree? As long as your “faking it till you make” attitude does not harm another then I say go for it!  But this post is in reference to people who specify they want to help others. People who claim to have certain characteristics, characteristics that if you are “faking it” may cause harm to another.

Having a good listening skill takes more than to sit across from another person and smile or make sad/concerned expressions. There will come moments, usually, where you may be required to put some skin  in the game!  The person to whom you are offering these listening skills may want some feedback! You will actually need to know what they are talking about. This may seem pretty obvious, and yes there are some who can listen for the short-term, but when it comes to long-term conversations or ongoing week after week conversations, they have missed portions of what is really happening and can only sit there and smile appropriately.  And if you think you can “fake it” you need to realize that the person with whom you are speaking will eventually know all you have to offer is a smile.

This is how I feel sometimes when talking to people. Sometimes people sit there smiling at the right moments indicating they are listening, until the inappropriate moment the smile comes and then I become confused about why they are smiling. Then it dawns on me this person is not listening. They pretend to be listening and caring but after a while the proof is in the pudding, or the actions as it where. I know people like this so I have first hand experience, but then we all probably know people like this. And the thing is….they can’t keep it up for the long haul! One of you is bound to walk away from the conversation or the relationship! Either she will see that she has nothing to offer you ( because she has no clue whats really going on) or you will see that she is not really all in the conversation and you will walk away.

All I am trying to say is be YOU!  If you are a good listener, GREAT! Use that skill because there are a lot of people out there who can use a good ear and shoulder! If you claim to be a professional listener/counselor of any kind, then you may want to work on those listening skills! Do not “fake it till you make it” – your clients will know when you offer a smile at not exactly the right point in the story line, or when you start asking them about an issue that has been resolved…you get my point!  ( at the least they will become confused)  And for heaven’s sake don’t just sit there smiling all the time!! It not only can come across as disingenuous but it can be really unnerving!  BE REAL!  ** This becomes easier when you really listen!

**disclaimer – there are some people who do smile all the time! No Worries!! It will become clear to people whether you are really listening or not! As I said you can’t fake listening…..it eventually catches up to you!

Peace,Love, and Keep It Real!  Christine

 

Do You Walk Your Talk? Or Are You Faking It Till You Make It?

walk1Boy oh boy! This is a great subject. Do you walk your talk? Do you practice what you preach or are you faking it till you make it? I think there are some people who do not get the concept of “faking it till you make it” I have found some people just think they can slap a label on themselves and start living the fake life and voila`- it is done! I actually think people have gone to jail for that! LOL  Just make sure your walk is not one of M.D. or Esq.  🙂

So maybe I should explain what I mean when I say “I do not think people get the concept of that”  I mean this; you can fake it till you make it as long as you are getting the education/knowledge you need to do the job properly in the meantime. Does that make sense? I hope so!

In this instance I am referring to Coaching or Counseling. I know some people who have begun coaching or counseling practices, seeing clients, and they have no training. And they are not receiving training. DO I think it is mandatory to receive formal training to help others? No. I know there are some professionals who have experience behind them and it really depends on what type of Coaching or Counseling you are doing. But I do feel it is important to help yourself before you start helping others, which is why training is so important. When you start learning about Coaching you will recognize issues within yourself . How can you claim to be able to help others if you have not helped yourself? I do apologize if you are one of those people who has never had an issue to deal with. 😉

So are you walking your talk? Or are you faking it till you make it? And does it matter? I am a firm believer in faking it, until you learn it, as long as you are actually learning.  That “fake it” attitude can really help build confidence. But we need to take responsibility for what we do and what we say and how that may affect others.

So “fake it till you make it” if you must, but be responsible and realistic about it. Especially when Coaching or Counseling others. This is after all  a life you are helping or potentially hurting.

Peace and Love~ Christine