Your Reaction Matters….

Defeats are part of our human experience

Whether we want to admit it or not. It is just a part of life. They may be small or big, but they are usually present at times. And they seem to pop up mostly when we are really on to something big. They can be looked at as of they are tests, how bad do we really want this? Whether test or just life; it is how we respond/react to these times in our lives that matters.

 

React or Respond?

Are you a reactor, or a responder? It matters. I can remember when I most definitely was a reactor! And it showed all over my face and in my body language. It was very difficult for me to hide my feelings in the midst of situations. And truth is, while I am mostly a responder these days, there are times I still have a hard time controlling my body language. I am working on that!
If we learn to be a responder our life is easier, even when we are showing, by our face, that we would love to react in a negative way to the situation, the fact that we don’t makes the situation better, for us and for the other people involved. Learning this self-control is huge! It is a great change in your life and will affect you for sure but it will affect those around you too! And it helps to get us through the defeats in our life if we learn this lesson now!

 

Start now, and know there will be slips!

Where to start to make t his change?

All you can do is start now. Dive in! If you want it you will have it! If you truly believe being a responder is the better way to live your life, then just jump in. I know if you want it bad enough you will make it happen. Yes there will be times, especially  in the beginning, when you will fail, that is okay! Remember defeats yes but not defeated!  All we can do is do our best. And knowing that we will always have another chance to get it right is motivation enough to keep trying!  So this is what you do…… starting now when you feel yourself reacting in a negative or judgmental way to a situation, and you don’t want to, then stop and take a breath, take a step away. Yes it really is that simple. Here is the thing- you will have a lot of times, more often than not, in the beginning, when you remember after the fact to be a responder and not a reactor. That is okay! It is growth!

You are going to have many times, even after you learn to take a breath and not react, when you will have to remind your face what the plan is!! But that is okay! Keep at it!

 

You are taking on a very noble cause!

Making this change in your life will indeed help your life to be easier. But the affect it will have on others is probably so profound that I think you are a hero for doing this! Taking on the challenge to make this change in your life, something that will have an impact on the lives of others……you are amazing! Considerate! I love that you care enough to want to do this.

 

Don’t give up!

Just keep moving forward and one day you will be on the other side, seeing the fruits of your labors! Good for you! And remember…..tomorrow is another day full of opportunities to do better! To become a responder not a reactor and to make sure your defeats

never defeat you!

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Don’t Ask Why………..

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Welcome to my morning thoughts…….
Have you ever wondered why there is so much pain and problems in this world? Me too!!
Then I asked myself….”have I ever done anything to help stop it?”
Ahhh that is the question.
So I decided instead of looking to God to fix it all- why not use the talents He gave to me and do my part? Yep…there it is.
No more questions- action! I will not draw my last breath wishing I had done something! ❤

 

Take The Challenge! Be Surrounded by Gratitude!

MyBannerMaker_Banner(6)Want to be surrounded by gratitude? Want to belong to a group of like-minded people? People who believe in positive attitudes and choice. You can belong to a group like this, now! The Gratitude Challenge is a 30 day challenge designed to immerse you in gratitude, encouragement, and love, to raise your vibration so that you will learn to be joyful and continue every day to reach for better thoughts!  And when you take the challenge you will be added to a group filled with others who want to strive to be their best!

Through simple daily exercises that take no more than a few minutes, at various times throughout your day, you will learn to be more grateful for what you already have and learn how helping/loving others is the key to everything!  When you encourage another person you are helping them. When you send out prayers or good thoughts for another person, you are taking a few unselfish minutes and devoting them to another. That is powerful!   And it will knock down any walls you may have built up around yourself, walls that may be stopping you from living your best life!  Gratitude breeds love and caring for others.  It just does!

I know sometimes we have problems that seem bigger than life itself! And it can be difficult to figure out what the problem is, we feel like we are being sabotaged at every turn! We just do not know how to turn things around!  I believe if we shift our focus away from our problems, as hard as that may be, we can not only get some perspective, but we can open a window of opportunity for growth! We can learn to help others to help ourselves!  I believe the choices we make when we are facing problems determines just how long we stay in the weeds and just how bad those weeds may get! At the very least learning to appreciate things, even when times are hard, will sustain us a lot more than worry and fear!

If you would like to take the Challenge-

Ask to be added to the Challenge Facebook group!

You can also visit the challenge page for more info!