Why is Forgiveness so important?

forgiveness7The quote says it all. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves.  When most people think of forgiveness they think of losing, or of being weak. They think forgiving someone is the equivalent of admitting defeat or admitting they are wrong. Our EGO will not allow this! Our EGO will fight to protect us from anything that makes us feel less than the EGO thinks we should feel. But God says we are better than that. God says with Him all things are possible and that includes having the ability and the grace that we need in order to forgive others. Through HIM all things are possible. There is a reason the word ” forgiven” and variations of it are mentioned 48 times in scripture! *Source BibleGateway.com

Bearing a grudge or holding onto anger does not serve you or HIM! Bearing a grudge will keep you stuck.  These grudges can build walls that may keep you stuck in a place where you are not able to meet your goals.

So do you think forgiveness is important? I can tell you that most people who are stuck have some soul-searching and cleaning to do, needing to look deep within and see who they may need to forgive. Sometimes these things can be buried so deep that we are not aware of their existence! When I see someone who just can’t get un-stuck I look for the situation which may need forgiveness . And a lot of the time the forgiveness is for oneself. We are the last person we seem to think of when it comes to forgiveness. We dig around and come up with what others have done to us, then we find it within to forgive them, but we forget to look to ourselves.  It is the same old story, we are the last person that we take care of. We need to forgive ourselves just as we forgive others. Whether it is the need for forgiveness for others or forgiveness for ourselves, it will keep us stuck if we do not address it.  Stuck and unable to reach our goals.

So who do you need to forgive? While you search your heart for those that have transgressed against you do not forget to look in the mirror and make sure you have forgiven YOU.  It is all for you. This will start those walls toppling down! It is a step in the right direction.

Peace and Love~ Christine

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The Act of Letting Go is Powerful!

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To carry around the anger of un-forgiveness is a hard thing to do. It weighs us down and causes more problems than most people know.

It’s a funny thing, we carry around our anger as a badge of honor, but really it is a badge, or sign, that says victim! The first time someone told me that my “grudge” was just making me a victim, that made me sort of angry! I can remember the professor telling me that each time I remembered the injustice, or was prevented from progressing in life due to the blocks this injustice had created in my life, that I was allowing myself to be a victim. I took great offense to the word “victim” and it took me many a day until I could revisit the discussion without being angry about it.

In time I came to realize that the professor was correct. Much to my dismay I had used my past hurts and pains as crutches and allowed them to be blocks standing in the way of my future.

Once I was open to the thought, purging of my anger and pain did not take long and truly was not hard place to get to! I actually got to a place where the forgiveness was so easy, because I didn’t want it in my life any longer! It became so much easier to forgive the person, mostly because I viewed the un-forgiveness (by the way-completely in my control) as a poison in my life! Once you actually believe that- how fast do you think you will let it go?!?  Trust me- lightening fast!

Our past does not serve us nor does it define us!