I love ME Enough!

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Forgiveness is such a great word…and action. If only we can get there. I know it is subjective; everyone has a story, one that is so different from mine, yet so similar. No one person is better, or more deserving, of forgiveness than the next. Yet….for some of us, we feel as though we will never get there!  Will we? Will we ever really truly forgive?

Yes…emphatically yes!  I truly believe in the possibility of forgiveness and the power of forgiveness!  I know it can take time, and I know at first we are lost as to how we will ever get there!  But get there we will! It takes time, it takes perseverance, and it takes love! And it takes a desire to do so.

I think the biggest mistake we make is in believing it can, or should, happen quicker than is possible! We put way too much pressure on ourselves to forgive because that is what Jesus would do, or that is what God would want, or…whatever. And I think that we forget to forgive the right person. What do I mean by that? I think in some cases (many) we are so hurt by whatever it is that created this need for forgiveness; that we forget to forgive ourselves. Yes even in cases where we were wronged we probably still need to forgive ourselves (keep reading!!)….even if the forgiveness may seem misplaced because we really have nothing to need forgiveness for! Are you following me? Sometimes we are wronged (say by assault) yet, even though the other person is obviously in the wrong; I mean a victim is and never should be blamed for violent acts against them, but try and tell that to their subconscious! Victims may feel pain that is caused from their feelings of guilt and shame associate with the assault. Now maybe it is a stretch to call this self-forgiveness, and it is definitely terrible to think of a victim needing to forgive themselves, but let us just start there. Because what really needs to happen is the victim needs to let go of the situation which is causing them to feel guilt, shame, and pain. PTSD and other emotional problems can result from violent and abusive traumas. Forgiveness and love are powerful tools on the road to recovery.

Can we just start with forgiving our-self? Forgiveness for the feelings we have associated with the trauma that was inflicted upon us by another? Yes….let it go.  The guilt, the shame, the feelings of victim…..all these things that are causing us to stay in a victim mentality…..forgive our-self for them and learn to love our-self! A love so unconditional that we will rise like a phoenix out of the ashes that were once our suffering!

So lets start with us. Lets start the entire process with forgiving us our faults; whatever they may be! And accepting that we are not to blame for what happened to us. And even in cases where we have to accept a certain amount of responsibility, and there are some situations like that, we still need to love ourselves enough to say ” I am forgiven” and let it go.

And so how do we know if we have forgiven? If we have really let it go? That is easy! If it keeps coming up (in a negative way), if it keeps holding us back, if we continue to ruminate over it at times; then we have not let it go and we still have work to do! And that is OK! As long as we are conscious of the fact and willing to keep working at it!

Forgiveness will set US free! But it takes time and a powerful love for one’s self!

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Why is Forgiveness so important?

forgiveness7The quote says it all. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves.  When most people think of forgiveness they think of losing, or of being weak. They think forgiving someone is the equivalent of admitting defeat or admitting they are wrong. Our EGO will not allow this! Our EGO will fight to protect us from anything that makes us feel less than the EGO thinks we should feel. But God says we are better than that. God says with Him all things are possible and that includes having the ability and the grace that we need in order to forgive others. Through HIM all things are possible. There is a reason the word ” forgiven” and variations of it are mentioned 48 times in scripture! *Source BibleGateway.com

Bearing a grudge or holding onto anger does not serve you or HIM! Bearing a grudge will keep you stuck.  These grudges can build walls that may keep you stuck in a place where you are not able to meet your goals.

So do you think forgiveness is important? I can tell you that most people who are stuck have some soul-searching and cleaning to do, needing to look deep within and see who they may need to forgive. Sometimes these things can be buried so deep that we are not aware of their existence! When I see someone who just can’t get un-stuck I look for the situation which may need forgiveness . And a lot of the time the forgiveness is for oneself. We are the last person we seem to think of when it comes to forgiveness. We dig around and come up with what others have done to us, then we find it within to forgive them, but we forget to look to ourselves.  It is the same old story, we are the last person that we take care of. We need to forgive ourselves just as we forgive others. Whether it is the need for forgiveness for others or forgiveness for ourselves, it will keep us stuck if we do not address it.  Stuck and unable to reach our goals.

So who do you need to forgive? While you search your heart for those that have transgressed against you do not forget to look in the mirror and make sure you have forgiven YOU.  It is all for you. This will start those walls toppling down! It is a step in the right direction.

Peace and Love~ Christine

I Forgive You!

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I’ve thought a lot lately about what it is that may be holding me back from realizing my dreams. You all know I have begun to realize lately that I am not going “deep” enough in my writing. So I wonder- what is it? What is stopping me?

You know me I am always looking for ways to better serve myself and others.  I know forgiveness is key to blocks, and I have acknowledged those who have hurt me in any way. I have forgiven each one that I can remember and just for good measure I offer up forgiveness to anyone I may have forgotten.  And I ask for forgiveness from those who I have wronged in any way.

So I am left wondering….what else is there to forgive? I can’t help but feel like I have forgotten something!  And you know what? I have forgotten something….ME! I need to forgive me!  I believe we are the last ones to receive our own forgiveness and sometimes we never do forgive ourselves! Forgiveness for our-self is the stumbling block left untouched,  forgotten, yet as strong as if we were conscious of its presence!   Self-love is of such significance I can’t believe I would forget that to love yourself you must forgive yourself.

So I am going to forgive myself for anything and everything I have ever done! I am a new person today; a person worthy of my unconditional love.  Even if I have to remind myself of this everyday, I will get it down deep inside where it counts and knock down those walls!