Remember this…


A kiss is just a kiss!  haha…no really….

Just because you say it is so, doesn’t mean it is.  Just because you devalue another person by reducing their feelings to drama, or being oversensitive, doesn’t mean you are right or they are any less hurt by what you did or said.

We all need to take responsibility for our words and actions;realizing both can hurt others. And if someone is hurt by either our words or actions it is up to us to apologize.  Just because you think it shouldn’t hurt them, that they are blowing it out of proportion (or whatever you tell yourself to justify your words and/or actions) does not mean you are right! It doesn’t make them any less hurt.

I think people who bully probably follow this philosophy of devaluing peoples pain.

I try to follow the golden rule; “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!”

I bet if I said something or did something to you that hurt your feelings you would be pretty upset if I told everyone you were just being too sensitive= devaluing your feelings!  Your feelings matter, as do mine.

OMGosh! Did you SeE ThaT Picture?


I was going to put a picture up that was the type that is mentioned in this post, but I could not bring myself to have a picture like that on my blog; even if only for the article. So enjoy the flower! Isn’t it pretty?! My daughter has these in her front yard, her husband gave them to her 🙂

And so on to the rant post! 

Have you ever seen those pictures people post all over the internet of other peoples embarrassing moments?  You know the ones I mean! The one with the woman in Walmart who is wearing shorts 5 sizes too small for her or the girl who had an accident before she could make it to a restroom?  Yeah! You know those pictures!

So this morning I see a picture like that on my FB Feed and I immediately want to say something to the person who posted it…well actually I wanted to say something to all the people who replied to the picture.  Because when I saw the picture I also saw there were 12 comments and I thought for sure that some of those comments would be people giving their opinion, saying something like how cruel and love-LESS an act it is to post such pictures of people. What I found though were 12 comments of people making fun of the person in the picture.  So yes!!! I wanted to say something to all of those people!

Of course (as I am trying to do more and more these days) I took a few minutes to think about that.  Do I really want to say something to these people? I mean they will rake me  over the coals for daring to speak up,  but then I think to myself  “AH but that is exactly why I should say something, don’t be afraid to speak up!” But then my other self says “is that really what you should do? Cause this picture, and these Peoples juvenile and heartless behavior, to explode into a huge debate so that even more attention is drawn to the poor person in the photo?    Boy that is not what I was trying to do here! And then of course I thought about what I was doing with my whole line of thinking.  At that moment. I was being angry, and judgmental, and I definitely had no love for these people, although I had love for the person in the photo.  But is that good enough? Yes….in some cases absolutely, I think. I think sometimes we need to stand up for others, even if it can be interpreted as coming from an angry place, or  being less than love. But devaluing one person for the sake of another….I just do not know, that is dangerous territory which we should think long and hard about going into.

I just think we need to pick our battles carefully when we are thinking about coming at others, albeit angry mean-spirited others, because it may turn ugly and it will attract a lot of angry people. It will cause division and that is never a good thing.  There has to be better ways to deal with this type of behavior!

But…….sometimes I want to throw out the love thoughts and just blast people who have no consideration for others ! One of the worst parts is that these same people would stand up against bullying…..isn’t this a form of bullying?  Making fun of others for the way they look, dress, speak,live,etc……..?   OH and while it may be termed “making fun” of others this in no way is a fun activity; or shouldn’t be!  These comments, as are the others you see way too often on the internet, were nasty, mean-spirited comments that gave off low…low….energy and was nothing but devaluing other people.  You can’t come from a place of love or attract the right kind of love for yourself when you are devaluing others.

So what is the answer? For now I am blogging about it and praying about it. I am sending love to those people who choose to use their time to hurt others.  And I am sending lots of positive thoughts and love to those who are hurt daily by bullies; such as the ones I saw this morning on Facebook.

What do you think about these types of photos on the internet and the mean-spirited debates that so often follow? And I am not just speaking of the unknown persons picture but also the famous. Celebrity photos are harsh and cruel at times , I do not subscribe to the notion that they opened their lives up to judgement and criticism.  But I digress…….

What do you think?