So You Think You Are ALL THAT At Communication?

cluelessI see so many people handing out advice about communication. It is the most important thing in relationships. I agree! It is vital in relationships of all types. The problem is, as many people as I see handing out the advice, I do not see that many people who are truly willing to put in the work.

Communication has been a thing for me most my life. It was such a big thing for me that I taught my children at a young age how to be considerate of others and how to listen.I think that is one of the reasons people fail at communication. Communication is not only about talking to each other. Your communication style is of vital importance as is your commitment, passion, and sincerity! Consideration towards others, when it is real, makes a world of difference in your communication style.

If you, in the beginning of a relationship, return calls/texts promptly, you call occasionally, you listen intently, you share of yourself, and then one day, you don’t, you can expect some problems will be headed your way. Period. You need to get real, from the very start, about who you are and what style of communication you are comfortable with for the long haul. Because it matters! People, friends, family, spouses, boyfriends, they will notice.  This is not to say that if you have a moment where you fall off the radar the relationship will not survive. No! I am sure it will and even if it doesn’t, it should have. So take heart that you found out early there were bigger issues than communication. There is nothing wrong with having a moment, we all do! But repeatedly failing to be who you represented yourself as in the beginning of a relationship, whether it is in your communication or your fidelity, loyalty, whatever! Is no good!

And being clueless to the fact that you are that way is no excuse! I will bet that you’ve been told, nicely, ( at least at first) that this was happening, and I’d be willing to bet you chose to decide the person was being sensitive or nagging! OR they were changing.  Well folks we all need to look in the mirror when there is a breakdown in communication, a breakdown in a relationship, and make sure we are really being honest about what is happening. And be willing to either address our issues or accept that the other party does not agree and be willing to let it go and move on. I mean if you search your heart and you come up with….it is not about you but about them…..well accept it and move on!  **And your other relationships are a good indicator too! If you have issues with others then maybe it is you……….?

I think what people forget is that good communication is not just about words. It is also about the way you deliver your words! And in my opinion communication is not really that good if it is lacking consideration,sincerity and integrity.  Without those components then all we have are shallow, meaningless, words.

And your true intent may get lost in translation!

Peace and Love~ Christine

Communication Part 2- God, is that YOU?

“Coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous.”
― Albert Einstein, The World as I See It

 

 

What are some of the other signs that God is speaking to you?

 
Dreams are one way! In our dreams God may send us signs. He speaks to us. I know if I’m connected deeply before bed, journal writing is a good way to get connected before I go to sleep, then sometimes God speaks to me through my dreams. I am not talking prophetic dreams…not really, although we know it happens so welcome it with open arms if you get one!! (SMILE) But they can feel more like nudges. Nudges which will help you to discover your passions! At times you probably will not even remember the dream or that you had a nudge, but things will start happening…

Coincidence! What we call coincidence, I believe, is just as the quote from Albert Einstein above says….a coincidence is just God’s way of remaining anonymous! As we get older we all start noticing that some things are simply not mere coincidence! Some things are too hard to explain away. The wish to talk to someone and then they call, or thinking of someone who you have not spoken to in years and there they are! These are all the obvious, and many times repeated, coincidences that are not coincidence! How many times have you been very excited to tell someone about something that happened to you that was sooooo strange! Such an unbelievable coincidence? The reason it is so unbelievable, so hard to imagine, so out of this world….is because it is God. It is a supernatural event that came from a higher source!  Because “with God all things are possible” not a few…not some….ALL.  Instead of believing it is a coincidence…see what happens when you accept that there are no coincidences, accept it as a sign of confirmation! A sign that He exists and that if you will only ask, talk to Him, then you can get the supernatural help you need to reach your desires.

He speaks to us from within. God is within us, all we need to do is stay quiet enough to hear Him and then trust that it is Him. We hear Him all the time. We hear Him from the time we are born and He never fails to be there. We call it our inner voice, our intuition, it is our connection to God! Why do you think that you have always had that gut feeling when things are going wrong or that elated feeling when you just know you are making a right decision? It’s God,Source,The Creator, etc….. it is our Soul…our connection to God.

He is with us always… as we grow up and become adults we forgot to listen to him.When you were born you were innocent and full of the knowledge that God existed ……you knew you were capable of accomplishing anything and that you were special and oh so loveable! There was nothing that you could not do! Then after a few years you started listening to the people around you and little by little you began to have doubts and fears….you were not so sure about things any longer and after a while you developed a lot of insecurities and doubts about who you really are. Take a look at any 2-year-old and you will know it is true! Oh to be young again and have that unfailing faith and innocence!

So….communication is important, wouldn’t you agree?

Communication Part 1- Why is it important?

Communication is an art. I think it takes true talent to really communicate with others. I have spent many years living in this world ( nice way of saying that I am oldER)  observing people and their communication styles. Over the years I became a little obsessed ( my kids may say A LOT)  with making sure that I and those around me, like my children, practiced the art of communication and respected others and were always considerate in our dealings with people….especially when it came to communication. I taught my children to  always be a few steps ahead of others at all times…to anticipate what a person might be wanting, especially  a guest in our home. We could not achieve  this type of consideration for others unless we were communicating with them….asking questions…hearing them. I see many arguments break out among people simply because they do not communicate with each other…whether it is because they are not listening or are not being listened to, it always seems to come back to communication.

Even though I find all of this very interesting…… it is not the reason I want to talk about communication today. I am more interested in how we use communication to help us discover our souls purpose.  Communication with God is a very important step that many of us overlook when deciding to figure out why we are here on this beautiful planet! I hear people talk about taking classes and reading books and taking “tests” or “quiz’s” of some type to find their purpose. What I think is the most important step is talking to GOD…communicating with Him to help us find our purpose. Obviously there are people who already know this and I am probably boring you!! (SMILE)  If you have already figured this out then you don’t need me to help you   If you are still struggling then read on……

How can we discover our true purpose without having some serious communication with our creator?  In some cases this could be the missing key in our quest! God created us for a specific reason and God can help us to discover that reason if only we will ask. Oh…and listen! Yes….that is an art as well!

So how do we communicate with God and better yet how do we know when God is answering us? I am no expert but I can speak from experience. Following are a few things that I have found helpful in connecting to GOD ( our source, creator, the universe….etc) .

One way and probably the most obvious, would be by reading the Bible. And I do also recommend reading other books which draw on scripture to illustrate how to have a more spiritually connected life. I have found that by surrounding myself with The Word and books about The Word and spirituality, I have naturally been drawn closer to God. My relationship with God has grown by leaps and bounds over the last few years due to immersing myself in spiritual books. I read mainstream Christian books as well as books by authors such as Wayne Dyer and Louise Hay. I read encouraging and helping books by authors such as Crystal Andrus and Marianne Williamson. I have read A Course In Miracles ( that is a work in progress…have you seen the size of that book???) and I read The Bible. As you can see when I say immerse yourself I am not kidding. My reading schedule is not for the faint of heart! I read and or listen to something in these categories every single day. I have not missed many days in 5 years.

Meditation is another way to get closer to God. Wayne Dyer has a great book called Getting in The Gap, a book about meditation, which teaches you how to meditate effectively. It is a small book with a helpful CD included.  ***I have heard it said that some people feel meditation is not a good thing to practice. I know of no person who feels  this way; So I cannot speak about why they think this or…well I can’t say anything about that!  I think meditation is a good thing to  practice…..if nothing else it will teach you discipline. But if you practice it I guarantee you plenty of quiet time with God.

Listening to uplifting music is another way to communicate with God. I feel that when I listen to Uplifting and encouraging music that my soul sings and God hears it. Practice this and you will probably start seeing/hearing things that at first you will call coincidence but will come to know as GOD.

To recap…..surrounding yourself with spiritual and helpful books, TV, and Video, practicing meditation, and  listening to uplifting music are all helpful ways with which you can connect ( communicate)  with God.

As you can see, I believe communication is not only important to your Souls purpose but it is vital to your connection with God. And….if you ask God that simple question….what is my soul purpose? Why am I here? He will answer you!

So what are some of the ways God communicates with us?

That is Part 2 !