I came to this realization late in life but coming to it is all that matters. The funny thing is it has come in shifts; this realization. I will know it is true one day and then a week later I get sucked up in the guilt game. Yeah that’s my thing- guilt. I learned not to do the blame thing a while ago and that lesson has stuck!
But being a parent is a guilt ridden job, heck having family in general can mean relationships fraught with guilt. So yes what I am saying is “guilt” in relationships is my “issue”. Having said that I can tell you if you keep at the lesson, the practicing of the lesson, it gets easier and easier. I’m sure the other areas of my life that I am working on, and have been for years, help to support my continued growth in this area.
What I have come to realize is this doesn’t happen overnight and the key is not to give up. We must be consistent and persevere! We will have set backs and we will have times when we feel like nothing has changed; but I promise you, eventually it will get easier and it becomes freeing and it will become blissful.
So here is to our eventual bliss- may we get closer and closer with every new day! I love you!