I know some of you saw this title and thought “oh there is some juicy RFRA talk here!” sorry to disappoint; this is not about RFRA, or at least not directly, but if the shoe fits, by all means! Ha!
No this is just me wondering out loud why some people can’t handle the truth and then decide to lash out at those who stand by the truth. Make sense? I guess this can apply to so many situations!! So you would be a fool to think I am talking about YOU. Right? Do you feel as if I am bating someone? Nah….just thinking out loud.
Although I did learn a valuable lesson recently. Want to hear? OK. So I learned that I have an issue with being straightforward with people, especially if I know it is not what they want to hear. I know….I know….a lot of people have this problem. But at some point something will happen in your life to bring you to the realization that enough is enough! And I think I have come to that point. I mean I have this issue with everyone, friends, family, work associates……it is a terrible thing, I am really good at listening and offering advice (and I am working on only offering it when asked!) and I can tell it like it is, but when I get to a point where I see someone behaving horribly to others, I mean horribly, then I have a hard time saying ” hey! You treat people terrible!!” So I tip toe around the subject, I say philosophical things to them, I hope they catch my drift. And they don’t. But I try.
What I learned recently is that what I get for my efforts is – misunderstood, lied about, characterized as a terrible person, misrepresented, I can go on and on. And I realized it could have all been avoided if I had just been straightforward from the beginning and said what I thought. Jeez! I mean sure they may not like to hear that I think they are wrong, or that they are acting horribly, but they will know where I stand and we can agree to disagree (and life has shown me that some people will never agree to disagree…but hey! They are not true friends or they are family! Haha) For those who are mature enough to understand we can’t always agree, we will move on and never get to the point of bashing the other…or them bashing me, whatever! I will not bash someone else….and they should be happy for that!! LOL
If I can’t learn this lesson then I am always going to be here at some time or another, I always leave the door open for misunderstandings…. and when you have to live like that you can feel bad….haters are strong people! They are fueled by something as strong as love and that can shake you. It makes you feel like others may believe the crap they are selling. But it is not so! Because it is crap! You have to remember that. Remember who you are dealing with.
Look, I am sure you can relate to this, so I have some advice: do not let others shake your faith in you when you know you have done nothing wrong! Stand strong! Have courage! And above all else….learn from the past! When we are not perfectly honest with others, even for the sake of their feelings, we open the door to a mess! Of course! Because lies are a bad thing….evasive speak is bad. It all can lead to heartache and in this case it is avoidable.
When you are faced with a person who has issues and they are close enough to you that they seek out your advice, please either be straightforward from the beginning or don’t offer the advice! Don’t be the shoulder…..OR offer the shoulder but no advice…get it? Got it! Thank you God for letting me see!
Ya know I read my cards today and they told me that something “eye opening” was going to occur…something that would shift my reality. Hmmmmmmm again….Got It!