Gun Control will not Stop all our Problems! We need a Return to Love.

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**I could easily have titled this post “Our Society is Broken” but I felt more people would read it if it said “Gun Control…” ?**

YES we need to look at our gun laws, not to disarm innocent law-abiding citizens,but to somehow look at these laws and see why they are failing to keep guns from those who should not have them! Ohhhhhh but see, that in itself is a huge problem! We will never keep guns out of the hands of those who want to do harm! They will find a way!! Are we so naive as to think we can eradicate guns from existence?  That will not happen.  So what in the world can we do?!?  Seems hopeless…….

Our society is broken and will not be fixed by simply implementing more gun control! While our laws are not working, obviously, and can stand for some looking at, this is not what will fix the problem.

Our problem is on a consciousness level.  Our people are broken. I should say so many of our people, not all. We need a return to love and that includes tough love.  We need stricter consequences as well as learning to treat each other better! And we need to teach about personal responsibility!

Should we look at gun control? Yes. We need to make sure the mentally unstable can’t get their hands on guns, but truth is no matter what we do there is always going to be a way. Sadly.  But we can do our due diligence and we should do that.  We should not hear stories of how some child or mentally unbalanced person got their hands on a gun in what seemed to be a legal way by mistake.  No. That is unacceptable and needs to change.  Consequences at the sale level.  And consequences for criminals in general needs to change, get the innocent and misdemeanors out of jail and make room for the real criminals! Jail reform and police/judge reform?  I know most of the people who commit mass murders end up dead, like 99.99%  and in these cases consequences would not matter or would they? At some level consequences (during formative years)  for right and wrong make a huge differences and will/would have a ripple effect in the long term on a consciousness level.  If that makes sense.  I am just saying we need to start raising our children/our citizens to learn right from wrong! By implementing strong consequences and personal responsibility as a way of teaching in the home, with consistency, our children, thus our citizens will be raised to understand the gravity of human life. Knowing right from wrong, reality from fantasy, the gravity of human life, this can make a difference. Being raised with respect and learning the importance of giving it and learning what it means to earn it.  And learning to take responsibility when we make mistakes; from the smallest to the biggest they all matter, especially in the formative years!

We all need to learn to practice love. Love for one another. If you think the lack of love in our society is not contributing to out current problem, think again. There is a psychological warfare going on out there and it starts at birth! With some people it begins in the home and continues on the playground where the child is reinforced with the thought that in the great scheme that is life he doesn’t matter, right or wrong he seems to lose, and there is a game to play not a life to live. We all become pawns in the game that is this persons life.  Do you think love could have made a difference? Well maybe one person loving him at home may not have been enough, maybe, but it could have been. But what about a society that is brought up in love and respect and extends that wherever they go? Do you think that could have made a difference? I do.

This is that ripple effect and I believe it is where we really need to do the work. We need to see reform from our local law to our federal, from our crooked apathetic politicians to our apathetic parents, and let’s not forget our churches and those who fill their pews, there needs to be an infusion of humanity, sacred and filled with love for there to be a shift.  Gun control laws alone will not make the difference we need to see.

Yeah I could go on and on about this subject but I won’t. And many of you may think I am over-simplifying things and I will respectfully disagree. I do think love can change the world and definitely think it can change this issue. Would it take time? Yes! I am not proposing magic (although I feel it is pretty magical) I am proposing love, pure unadulterated love for one another.  And more love, respect, and consistency in the home and at school.  More love between adults to show as examples to children.  Our children need examples of love but sadly are being raised around a lot of hate.  Hate, lack of discipline, lack of consistent good examples, why are we surprised that we have a problem?  I believe if we raise our kids in a place with love, respect,consistency and accountability we will see the changes we need to see.

This is not just about changing the way we raise our kids, it is about loving one another. In order to create a more loving environment to raise your kids in we must love one another.  Stop all the fighting! Grow up and learn to stop sweating the small stuff. Teach your kids to be grateful and to love one another for who they are and to see beyond the differences.  Teach your kids to love themselves.  And to teach them self-love you must love yourself first.  Ripple effect.  Examples.  Actions speak louder than words every time!

**My prayers are with all those affected by the recent shooting in Oregon and with all those affected by gun violence or any violence.

That is NOT what I said!

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I guess I am intended to write about this today. Why? Because a friend on Facebook posted a status about this subject and then I had a personal moment where I went through the same thing. So I guess YOU have spoke! I do pray daily that you will lead me to a topic each day and that I will recognize it when it appears!

People will hear what they want to hear. It does not matter what you say- they will hear it the way their brain hears it. That is not to say they will always get it wrong! No! They may get the essence right but it will be repeated in their words. The words their brain has interpreted from your conversation and then stored to, unfortunately all too often, be repeated to others. And then sometimes, way too often, they do not get the essence at all. They aren’t even in the same ballpark! It happens.
Sometimes it is a small thing, like hearing a name wrong or a simple word heard wrong…. Yet other times it is a big deal… Such a big deal It can cause real harm to relationships. It can be the fodder for the rumor mill. That’s when it needs to be addressed and the person doing this needs to accept responsibility for it. That person must be able to let go and realize the person they are speaking of ( you) may indeed be being misrepresented…..by them!

I feel if we all would accept the fact that it is human nature to hear things the way we hear them and not necessarily the way it was truly said; and this is not necessarily done with malintent…. Then we would all be better off.
Once again we get down to accountability and perception ! We have to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions. And realizing our perception of things and that we can skew what we hear, and how we interpret things, will be the first step towards change.
I’m not saying we are all bad people. I am saying it is pretty common to hear things wrong, to get the emotion behind the comment wrong……it happens. Now we need to accept it and move on. If we can accept it we can change it. Right?