That is NOT what I said!

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I guess I am intended to write about this today. Why? Because a friend on Facebook posted a status about this subject and then I had a personal moment where I went through the same thing. So I guess YOU have spoke! I do pray daily that you will lead me to a topic each day and that I will recognize it when it appears!

People will hear what they want to hear. It does not matter what you say- they will hear it the way their brain hears it. That is not to say they will always get it wrong! No! They may get the essence right but it will be repeated in their words. The words their brain has interpreted from your conversation and then stored to, unfortunately all too often, be repeated to others. And then sometimes, way too often, they do not get the essence at all. They aren’t even in the same ballpark! It happens.
Sometimes it is a small thing, like hearing a name wrong or a simple word heard wrong…. Yet other times it is a big deal… Such a big deal It can cause real harm to relationships. It can be the fodder for the rumor mill. That’s when it needs to be addressed and the person doing this needs to accept responsibility for it. That person must be able to let go and realize the person they are speaking of ( you) may indeed be being misrepresented…..by them!

I feel if we all would accept the fact that it is human nature to hear things the way we hear them and not necessarily the way it was truly said; and this is not necessarily done with malintent…. Then we would all be better off.
Once again we get down to accountability and perception ! We have to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions. And realizing our perception of things and that we can skew what we hear, and how we interpret things, will be the first step towards change.
I’m not saying we are all bad people. I am saying it is pretty common to hear things wrong, to get the emotion behind the comment wrong……it happens. Now we need to accept it and move on. If we can accept it we can change it. Right?

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2 thoughts on “That is NOT what I said!

  1. You are so right! People hear what they want to hear. 6 people could hear the same thing or view the same situation and they might interpret it 6 different ways. This is because we have different views, we have varied listening skills, we take words out of context, we have select hearing, we not are paying attention. I’m guilty myself of not hearing things properly and people have often misinterpreted me which causes problems. Life happens and as you said….we need to accept it and move on.

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