It is true that the people you need in your life will be there when you need them, then once you no longer need them or them you, they leave. While it may not make sense, it may be for the best. Sometimes a relationship falls apart for a reason, and sometimes a relationship falls apart for no clear reason. I have not had the latter happen, until recently! When it happened I didn’t understand it and was extremely bewildered, I felt betrayed by the person, mostly because I did not know what happened. Losing a relationship can be a hard thing even in the best of circumstances, but when the other person will give no reason for the leaving (or refuses to talk to you) and just leaves, it becomes an even more difficult situation. Communication is the cornerstone of ALL relationships, when one refuses to talk both parties suffer.
What I learned is it doesn’t matter the why’s, all that matters are the “facts”. And the facts in my case were that no matter what I said or how often I reached out, this person was leaving! And by their choice not mine! But this person took it to another level, a final, albeit immature level, by cutting connections on social media sites. While I recognize how immature this “un-friending” is, I also recognize (the point they were trying to make maybe?) for whatever reasons this relationship is over to never be revived.
OK, so why am I telling you this? I do have a point to make! And maybe a glimmer of hope to those going through similar situations! A few months ago I told you about a text message I received (from this same person) that was the beginning of the end and how in the same time frame I was offered a new opportunity! This certainly softened the hurt I felt by the “leaving” or what I felt was turning into a leaving. Well, it has happened again! Same person and in the same day I have been given a new opportunity! Again! So, I have come to realize, if I had any doubts, that while we may not always understand why a relationship needs to end, ending can be a good thing.
Would I like my relationship back and not my new opportunities? No! I would like both. But it is not my choice. This person has gone out of their way to separate themselves from me for no clear reason. And being as there was no clear reason (that I can detect) they have come off as an immature, mean-spirited,person. And quite frankly I am better than that! So I guess I really would not want both if this is who the person truly is. I do not need that in my life and neither do you. If someone goes out of their way to show you who they are and it is not the kind of person you want to surround yourself with, then why hang on? Again, this may be the reason that God has shown me I have many opportunities in this life ! I do not need people dragging me down with their negativity and keeping me from my goals.
So if someone is leaving your life maybe consider letting them go! If someone doesn’t want you, why would you want them?
So to end this on a positive! YOU shine brightly as long as you do not get bogged down with negativity! Let your life flow! It can’t flow (in the right direction) if you’re surrounded by negativity! Be the love you want to see! That includes loving those who do not want our love returned. That is OK. God never said it would be easy, just that we must do it!
Peace and Love~ Christine
Embrace the change! It could be the best thing that ever happens to you!