A little side note before we start….
Sometimes when I write, I go all over the place. LOL I try to stay on topic. If I wander off…please know, I will always return to the topic! And somehow…. where I have went applies! Stay with me….read on…..
The prayer of St. Frances has been on my mind this morning. Every once in a while things will weigh heavily on me, and this is one of those times.
I prayed this prayer this morning……
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury,pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen
After saying my morning prayer I answered emails. I found a post on Facebook about abortion, always a nice controversial subject! The post was about how government should not be allowed to tell a women whether she can have an abortion or not. The replies to the post were, as expected, divided. And began a sadness within me. One side feeling abortion is wrong, no matter what the circumstances! The other side feeling that women should have the option, regardless of circumstances; but at the very least when a pregnancy is the result of rape OR if there is a medical reason.
None of the replies were unexpected for this kind of debate.
My heart was heavy as I read the replies because they were, in some cases, angry and not very nice. One in particular stood out for me. One poster made the comment that a woman should have the option, especially when it is dealing with a “rape baby”.
That was about all my heart could take. I wondered how someone could make that comment….. I was under the impression that when people choose abortion they were almost always, if not always, of the opinion that a baby is not a baby until it breathes life into it’s lungs; therefore abortion is not murder! Or so they feel. How can it be murder if the abortion is just removing material that one day would be a baby, but is not yet? I understood, did not agree, but understood where they were coming from. But this? This comment put it plain and simple…..you are terminating a “rape baby” …… a baby…..
As I began to get angry at this comment, it occurred to me that we are not our brothers keeper. We can’t be responsible for what others do in this life. And again…I do understand why people are upset and not using control when replying to this post. I mean…I’m about a minute away from being one of those angry posters!
I get it….just try and stop people from caring about the subject of abortion.
Interesting though that if they are on our side…if they care about the unborn child, then that is OK. As long as they agree with us, it is easy to remain calm and have a discussion about this subject! What about those who do not see it as we do? Is it right to have heated debates with them, ones that deteriorate into screaming matches filled with name calling; as in the post that I was reading?
I do not feel that it is. It is not our job to judge others for their beliefs. That is between them and God…not between them,God and ME or YOU.
We have enough to deal with just trying to be the best that we can be and to encourage others to do the same. And who are we to judge them if they are not living up to what we feel is their “best”? That is not our job. So why do we go around telling others, in usually very colorful language, that what they think, feel, believe…is wrong! Why do we even think that would work? LOL There is a reason that God said…..
“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. LUKE 6:37
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? LUKE 6:41
God’s Word never fails. There are reasons that it fits into each generation.. HIS words are timeless. It is pretty simple, but apparently one of the hardest things man has to accomplish. Do not judge others. It is not our job to do so. And if you find yourself in the unenviable position of having to judge another…seek God’s guidance. HE may just lead you away from the situation, so that you will not have to judge another. But you will never know if you do not ask.
So what does the Prayer of St Frances have to do with this? Well….”make me an instrument of your peace” that is the verse, among others, that stuck with me as I read the replies to the original poster on the subject of abortion. There was such judgement. And hostility. And I wondered…” what are they really accomplishing here?” and so I commented, with the following.
“It is so sad when you read things like “rape baby” and hear about ending innocent lives. But I think that is the issue….not everyone believes that it is actually a life at that moment, some people do not feel a baby is a baby until it breathes it’s first breath. I think there are people who feel it is a possibility of a life, but not actually a life…yet. At any rate……we all have different opinions on the subject. It is not our job to judge others…it is our job to answer for our own lives.”
I wrote a post that was honest and exactly what I felt; and I believe, encouraged peace. It started by expressing sadness at what I was reading, especially the “rape baby” comment. It went on to try to understand where others were coming from, others who do not hold the same believes as I do. It ended with expressing my believe that we..or at least I, cannot judge others, as it is not my job.
This is where I stand. I stand on the side of my truth; the truth as I understand it…between God and Me. And that is where you will always find me ( I pray). It is never my intention to judge and it is always my intention to be an instrument of peace……but no matter what we say or do, not everyone will agree. As a matter of fact…..other people, good people, will see what I am saying as a sin against God. Others will interpret my actions as those of a Godless person. And they do.
And again…all I can say is…it is not my job to judge and in the end….I have to answer to God and I have to live my life with that knowledge.